Dating at the office rules
Quick Fix: You need to start pacing the relationship.
Do : Don't see him more than once or twice a week, don't talk more than ten minutes on the phone, don't open up too fast, or introduce him to your friends before he introduces you to his.
Again, remind us: "Men fall in love quickly - but they also fall out of love quickly." Sure, it can be flattering, even exhilharating, when a man you've just met wants to see you several times a week and talk to you for hours on the phone.
But unfortunately the result is a white-hot romance that burns brightly and then fizzles out.
While there are always exceptions, the women I coach who are struggling with boyfriends who won't commit or husbands who ignore them almost invariably made the first contact.
A man may date and even marry a woman who approached him first, but there will likely be consequences later on..he approaches the girl he really wants. Quick Fix: If you talked him first or even asked him out, you can try to restore some of the feminine mystique and you forfeited as the initiator by being a bit more elusive - a little less available, a little more mysterious.
" Quick Fix: Know what you want - and believe you deserve it.If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.If not, then let him float away now, before he wastes more of your time and ends up breaking your heart. Look approachable and friendly - that's all the encouragement your future (adoring) husband needs. You've just met the guy and you're telling him about the back-stabber in your office, the fight you had with your sister, the details of your recent root canal. During the first few dates, the man is still essentially a stranger.Identify why you feel the need to yammer on -- nervousness, low tolerance for awkward silences, desire to impress with witty banter and accomplishments - and remember that you are not there to audition, but to relax and have a good time. Again, another big “no-no” identified in You need to show (not tell) men that you're a busy woman, with lots of friends, deadlines, projects and prospects (including romantic ones).When you accept so-called "spontaneous" invitations for the next day or even same evening, you send the message you've got nothing going on in your life - or nothing important, since you're willing to drop everything to accommodate him.
Let a man treat you like a fast food drive-thru (put his order in at the window then pull up to get his grub) and that's how he'll view you.