Dating a man with a bad past
Taking responsibility means recognizing our own choices in a given situation. Maybe before she decided to cheat, she tried to help cultivate more romance in their relationship, have more date nights, or spend more time together.
But, he didn’t make himself available for more romance.
If your guy appears to be in that boat, you have to ask yourself if you really want to date a man who is constantly looking for all the ways you can prove his theory correct.
Insisting on Too Much Too Soon On the flip side, if a recently divorced man wants to introduce you to his friends, family and kids all within just a few weeks of meeting you, he may be grasping at straws and desperately trying to fill the void left by the exit of his wife.
It’s possible he could just be trying to recreate that sense of normalcy and coupledom he had grown so used to, but jumping in head first (particularly without thinking about what his children may need in terms of time and sense of stability) could mean the two of you miss out on really getting to know each other in those early stages of dating.
That doesn’t mean to say that he is responsible for her cheating, or that he is responsible for her abusing him if those things have happened.
We are never responsible for our partner’s actions; they are their own people.
He isn’t likely a man looking for happily-ever-after, and there is a decent chance you will eventually become just another women he grows to hate.