Internet dating for widows
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.
Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
Some people may be ready after 6 months, while others may feel ready after 5 years.
The widow(er) will make this decision for themselves, but the important thing is that you are about to discuss, respect and be comfortable with the amount of time they’ll need.
It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.
I didn’t really feel ready to date until I had worked through the pain and feeling of loss.” “The best advice I have here is to ask the widowed person, “How can I be there for you?
Many will choose to attend therapy or support groups for help dealing with their pain. When you are dating someone it should be about you and that person having a shared goal of creating a great relationship.
“The most common mistake I’ve seen is people getting upset that the widow/widower still has pictures of their departed loved on and not understanding that the relationship ended without consent on the part of both parties.”Judging the widow/widower on the length of time after the death before getting back into the dating game.
As you’ll see from the passages below, everyone’s reaction to their circumstance, opinions and experiences are going to be different, so it’s important to keep in mind the specific needs of your match as you progress.
How long does a widow/widower typically wait to start dating again? I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
How can I help a widow/widower get through their pain and feelings of loss?