Dating an ex heroin addict recovery
Smoking cigarettes, exercising or having sex are popular stand-ins.
But beginning a serious relationship can be another substitute.
I was constantly in a state of limbo about the success of my partner and the future of our relationship.
This is my personal experience dating a drug addict.
As an addict's significant other, you take on that anxiety and worry.
You constantly have to be wondering if the person you love has relapsed. Their bond with drugs will be stronger than their bond with you, because drugs are easier.
For example, you should refrain from drinking alcoholic beverages around a recovering alcoholic, so he or she won’t be tempted to imbibe.
The support of loved ones can significantly reduce the risks of relapse. Dating a recovering addict can entail dating a person who has debt, broken family ties, legal difficulties, and more.
Don’t allow him or her to do so because it diminishes responsibility for mistakes made.
What is worse is you'll also have to consider how you'll deal with relapse if it happens. Even the best relationships are sometimes messy and chaotic, but drugs are an immediate escape and a quick way to temporary nirvana. Some addicts realize that they've given up the truly important things in their life, and work as hard as they can not to mess them up again.
Ever hear the saying, "Replace one habit with another"? When trying to come or stay off drugs, they often switch vices.
I've had three serious relationships in my life, and two of them were with drug addicts.
Dating became a daily juggling act between love and drugs, between happiness and utter devastation.
To avoid taking on a caregiver role and creating codependency issues, seek counseling for yourself.