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In fact, there are times when death would seem preferable to the unrelenting pain and frustration. All death hurts like Hell, because God did not make it.
There are those, even in the Church, who would seek to minimize or make light of this most unique agony: "Oh, don't worry about it! (See Wisdom -14) But He did redeem it by entering into our separations.
Women (or men) are like street cars, there's another one along any minute! I don't think there is any other pain quite like that of unrequited love, especially when rejection is involved, although that might even be preferable to being strung along with hopes raised and dashed with punishing regularity. Besides, someone heartbroken from rejection, grief, and loss is in no mood to have the joys of celibacy preached at them. And no one has a right to rob you of it so cheaply, especially if they're stacking false guilt over "not following God's will" on top of it. _____________________ This article originally appeared October 14, 1993, in the Troubadour, the student Newspaper of Franciscan University of Steubenville.
"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a wish fulfilled is the tree of life." (Proverbs ) Even the death of a loved one has a clean finality to it, and, normally, is not a deliberate choice on the part of the other to be free of you. Especially from those well meaning but insensitive vocational terrorists who zoom in with, "Well, maybe God wants you for himself! The subject of vocation is holy ground where we take off our shoes and tread softly, not go charging in with golf cleats and glib answers. It also appears in the unpublished collection Common Sense Spirituality: A Catholic Guide to Avoiding Spiritual Nonsense, by John Mallon John Mallon US John Mallon - Author, [email protected] love, spirituality, heartbreak, relationships, break-ups Copyright 2017 Catholic Online.
“Unlike the sexual risk-taking of the hookup culture, this is love so safe that what’s most feared is not a sexually transmitted disease but a computer virus, or perhaps meeting the object of your affection in person,” said Jones.
Winning essayist Caitlin Dewey paints a crisp picture of the struggle between Internet dating and real life.
“How social media overload can lead to break-ups” shares studies that show a link between social networking and failed relationships.The same study noted no significant difference in divorce between those who met online and those who met in real life.At the same time, the study noted that those who met via social media “tended to be more satisfied with their relationships than those who met in other ways.” Study author Jeffrey Hall, a communications researcher at Kansas University, is unsure of why social media results in happier relationships, but he notes that one’s Facebook profile “tends to be a pretty honest representation of who they are.” From a different perspective, could that profile honesty lead to the demise of a relationship?The study profiled in “How social media overload can lead to break-ups” noted that those who spend more time on social networking sites report more conflicts in their relationships and are more likely to break up.“If you’re looking through your newsfeed and you see stuff related to your partner and you find out that an attractive person you don’t know is posting likes or comments on your partner’s photos, you might start wondering, ‘Who is this person?
'” said Tara Marshall, a psychologist at Brunel University in London.