Birth order theory dating
When it’s not: If the oldest doesn’t act the part, “it creates a job vacancy,” says Salmon.“Donald Trump is a middle with a firstborn brother who didn’t fit the role.And the former youngest, now middle, may never shed the baby role. “Twins are the special focus of their parents,” says Salmon.“If you’re a second child whose sibling is 10 years older, then in most practical ways you grew up as a firstborn or only child,” says Sulloway. “There’s typically less competition between identical twins.When kids are one to two years apart, especially if they are the same gender, there’s more conflict, says Salmon.(Good news: That doesn’t mean they won’t be close when they’re older.) Parents are also overwhelmed, which adds to the turmoil.
“There’s a benefit to all of that undiluted attention.
“They might become very responsible, like the oldest, or social, like the middle.” Don’t feel like your birth order? According to the White-Campbell Psychological Birth Order Inventory (or PBOI)—a test developed to measure whether people are a “fit” for their rank—only 23 percent of women and 15 percent of men are a true match. Roughly half of your personality is the temperament you’re born with, says Sulloway.
And that’s why where you fall in your family or how early you had to start sharing blocks is only part of the pie.
A child’s temperament can trump birth order—or at least blur the lines.
Firstborns, in particular, are expected to succeed at whatever the family prizes most.
Except if you happen to have a slight eldest child or an especially robust middle or youngest. But when one child is a violin prodigy or an Olympic gymnast, she tends to get the prime treatment (and pressure) of a firstborn, no matter her actual spot. “A child with a disability who needs extra care can disrupt the sibling dynamic,” says Campbell.