Advice fromasingledating expert
Sleep with them and they relegate you to the easy bin and treat you like a casual sex companion even if they allow you to think that you’re more; or don’t sleep with them and you get consigned to the hard work bin.Even if you do ‘hold back’, there are some men egotistical and twisted enough to keep pursuing you till they get what they want, only for him to move you to the easy bin afterwards.” In addition to Evan’s suggestion, I suggest that you: Don’t mix the business of understanding a man’s intentions with the pleasure that comes with sex.
I repeat: Your sole responsibility before having sex is to figure out if he’s interested in YOU or in SEX. The difficulty that many women find themselves in is not only do they follow their libido, but also they think that having sex will help them to leapfrog to a more cemented relationship.
I never felt pathetic or sorry for myself for being alone, but I wasn't all that happy about it either. My coupled-up peers were either overwhelmed with helping their kids finish their Valentine's cards for school or coming up with something to make sure their partner knew they were cared about, without having to expend too much of their dwindling energy to do it. I woke up almost elated and had a smile on my face all day long.
I wore my normal muted grays and blues, but threw on a pair of red knee-high socks beneath my boots and pants, which I would then expose with a playful smile to my coworkers saying, "See? " When I stopped at Trader Joe's on the way home, I couldn't help but give a good-natured laugh at the people dutifully approaching the bins of rose bouquets and marching over to the register, looking relieved and tired after a long day at work.
In many cases, these men are chancing their arm to see how women react to their advances, and the reality is that with men like this, you just can’t win.
You’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t.
That's what I think every time Geek Rebel's name pops up when I go to my subscriptions.